Sunday, July 20, 2008


Tomorrow, I am going down to my Granny's house with my family.
This is good.
However, Matt can't get the time off work, and can't make it down until about 11pm on Wednesday.
This is bad.

I feel (not helped by my general downness) that I'm rather a failure as a modern, autonomous woman, being as I'm already sad about spending that long without him. My love, my best friend, my buffer of sanity against the madness that my biological family* can (and often does) become.

(*Not meant to be dismissive, I mean the family I was born into, rather than the family I chose - Matt and our pets. Both are family.)

I know that many dedicated couples spend far longer apart than this, and they manage. But I have never spent so much as a night apart from him since we were married, so many years ago (7).

I'm scared.

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At 1:50 am, Blogger Nettie said...

I can't sleep when Christian and I are apart. That's why I became so terribly grumpy towards the end of the Edinburgh Adventure.

At 4:30 am, Blogger oppiejoe said...

I cant help you out very much Boo... I am sort of the same way with my significant other - need to feel that comfort and companionship with them to be comfortable myself... ...

At 4:08 pm, Blogger NEO said...

Nothing wrong with that Boo. My wife and I going on nine years now have only spent a few nights away. Due to babies being born, me going away for a funeral for a day, me going out of town for work for two nights, and a sleep study most recently.

10 nights if I count right over 9 years.

Be happy that you and yours has a relationship as such that you need each other. That is the way marriage is supposed to be. Don't be down on yourself for that.

At 4:24 am, Blogger Shawna said...

I totally understand, Boo. I don't sleep well (nor does Dave) if we don't sleep together. Considering that Dave tends to sleep on the sofa most nights, that means neither of us sleeps well. Sounds to me like you and Matt have a very close relationship, and that's a good thing!
I hope (seeing as how it's now a week since your post) that things went well during your visit with your family.
Oh, and my verification word is (minus spaces, of course) a nifty d. lol

At 4:34 pm, Anonymous DavePrime said...

Sounds perfectly normal to me, Boo. I know that all I really want is for Shawna to be in the same general area as i am. We don't have to actually DO anything together, I just want to BE together... (If'n that makes any sense at all.)

I personally think you are showing an EXTREMELY grown up atitude. It shows that you have done what so many others seem unable to do: successfully bond with your mate!

At 1:39 am, Blogger Acci said...

When I was married, I'd sometimes have to be away from home for months at a time. And often I couldn't (or wouldn't even want to) bring my wife with me when I was traveling. To make matters worse, it would often be a case of I'd only find out that I was going to be leaving half an hour or so before I had to leave, and in those cases I wasn't always allowed to notify anybody that I wouldn't be coming home from work that evening after all. So that made things a bit awkward at times. We'd planned that I would retire in a few years, though, and then I'd find something that was a tad less demanding on my time.

I know that I always missed her when I was away, and Natalie wasn't happy to have me gone, but. . .well, somehow or another it didn't cause any problems other than inconvenience. I never really gave any great thought to how we managed to be happy even with that sort of thing going on; since it involved both of our ways of thinking, I doubt that I even could give a full reason as to how it worked out. But it did.

I must say, though, that given the option between sleeping alone or sleeping cuddled up with somebody shapely whom I care about, I do indeed prefer the latter option!

At 5:43 am, Anonymous Berlynprime said...

Heavens! It sounds like you like this guy or something!

J/K Honey. Big BIG hugs.

(Oh yeah, and I can't manage to be away from Mr. Prime for more than a couple hours so don't feel bad. I get all despondent when he has to go to the STORE.)

At 5:55 pm, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't let the bid bad wolf get you.

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